- Created: Wednesday, 14 February 2018 15:01
I didn’t see it coming, but I should have. Why is it that I was so blind sighted?
What was it and how can it help parent or lead your kids?
I’ll get to that in a jiffy, first we need to get the baseline right.
Like all siblings, my kids can grate on each other, irritate and squabble like…well, like I did when I was a kid with my siblings.
They’re human and subject to human weaknesses.
The first thing we must accept is the fall of humanity. We no longer live up to our ideal. We fail in many ways. In fact, the Bible says, before we are ‘born again’ we are given over to a depraved mind, one that is bent on self-autonomy and disobedience (Romans 8). This ‘depravity’ can be willful, arrogant, fist high in the air like Hitler, or it can be private, under the radar and ‘I don’t even know why I don’t like the name of Jesus, but I just don’t’.
Even with the Holy Spirit behind us, as we are being ‘remade’ into Christ’s better image of humanity, we still fail. Knowing this is true of our lives as parents, it also should lend us to be gracious, compassionate and perseverant with our kids (and spouse, though I have little to complain about on that count. But I’m not asking if it’s reciprocated!)
So, there’s the baseline. GRACE. We all need Jesus, the great high priest. We and our kids fail in many ways.
When it’s OK to spare the rod
Doesn’t mean spare the ‘rod’, however.
But in this case, I did spare the ‘rod’ because it was my dumb fault for not seeing it coming and not providing reasonable steps to avoid the clear and present danger that would be caused by my in inaction.
What was this inexcusable passivity of mine?